Are You the Only One who Does what You Do?

JerryThis is one of my favorite quotes of all time:

“You do not merely want to be considered just the best of the best. You want to be considered the only ones who do what you do.”

~Jerry Garcia

I think about this all the time, and was reminded of it again today because of a pair of purple panties.

But getting to that point of being “the only one” isn’t easy. It’s not safe.

Has it occurred to you that “formula for success” is an oxymoron?

If it’s formulaic, anyone can replicate the results. What you get, then, is… perfectly normal.

I’m not saying don’t have systems or don’t follow a plan. Not even all formulas are bad.

I’m saying that as a single-person business (which, likely, you are) don’t be a commodity. The commoditization of the creative continues to roll forward inexorably. Commoditization is profitable if you’re at the apex of that pyramid, but that’s not the kind of person I speak to.

Some fields are highly commoditized, but you can still stand out, like web design. Other areas are not highly commoditized… yet, like career & career change/work-life balance specialists. You’ll find a lot of variety in approaches, methods and outcomes there, where the end product is not a thing, but a life.

And by the way, I’m not writing this like I have all the answers. I’m writing this to see what I think, myself. Because this is important. Meaning-of-life kind of important.

How do you become the only one who does what you do?

Is there a formula for that that isn’t an oxymoron?

Maybe.

Maybe all we really have are clues.

You Can’t Not Do It

This seems like kind of a biggie. People are so awesome at self-sabotage it’s just retardulous. There are days when I really fucking hate marketing and if one more shiny new social media thing flits in front of my face, I’m going to stab out my eyes with white-hot rusty iron pokers soaked in acid and cursed by a warlock.

But then I can’t see any marketing effort and not intuitively start breaking it down in my mind. I’m like that kid in Sixth Sense, only “I see marketing…” I can’t shut it out.

I did this even when nobody paid me. I watched television shows about commercials (which had their own commercials–how’s that for “meta?”). When I go shopping, I don’t see a product on a shelf, I see packaging & marketing. I see merchandising and display design.

I can’t not do this stuff.

What about you? Would you do what you do for free? Were you, already?

It Doesn’t Seem Like Work

You know how I know when I shouldn’t be doing something? When it feels like work. If it feels like work, I’m not meant to do it. If you present me with blog & business ideas, it is nothing for me to look at them and instantly come up with a holistic information marketing strategy for you.  Or to look over a blog and see several key ways to improve its client-attraction and conversion qualities immediately.

And yet, I do it all the time, so, ironically, I get lots of practice at it, too. But it never feels like I’m practicing or working. I mean, I’m not running drills or anything. A great painter does not “feel” the work he’s pouring into his art, he just does it. He feels like a conduit, a channel. Not like a laborer. Accomplishment without strife.

Does what you do feel like this to you? Does it even feel like work? If it does, you’re doing it wrong.

If you’re like most of us, though, chances are there are aspects to your work which feel effortless and others which are a burden. Those are the parts you have told yourself you’re “supposed” to do. And I don’t mean like paperwork or bookkeeping, I mean the services or products you offer.

You Don’t Know What to Call It

I don’t mean to say there isn’t a name for what you do. It could be there is, but you didn’t know what it was at first. For example, it might take a while for someone to realize that, for them, it’s not illustration so much as it is concept art. Maybe an illustrator was doing other kinds of illustration for money and not really feeling like it was an effortless fit: his work always felt like work. But concept art was like entering a dream state: it didn’t feel like work at all. One day he finds out concept art is something people pay for. Now he knows what to call it and he’s home.

In some cases we may use normal labels to move through society without too much awkwardness and friction (which really wears you down after a while). For example, Hugh McLeod can call himself a cartoonist. Except it’s obvious he’s much more than that.

In my case, other people call themselves blog consultants. The reason I use that term is because I don’t know what else to call it. Consulting was the best term I could find at the time I needed one. When you’re a Renaissance Person 2.0 or a Multipotentialite, consulting can be a great way to describe what you do so that other people understand it somewhat.

And don’t call it something unusual when it really is something quite common. If you tell me you’re a “web experience facilitator” I’m probably going to laugh to myself and think: “OK, there, Mr. Web Designer, whatever.” I tried to do this myself a couple years ago by creating the term gateway blogging to describe lead generation through blogging. I invented names for its components and everything and it was going to be a training program. Problem was, all this stuff had already been created and named by others and I was just making unnecessary work. So I scrapped it and I teach my clients these principles using the language of the familiar.

If somebody asks you what you do or what your site about, you can’t fail to have a quick and intriguing answer. You have to call it something.

Three is a good number. I can’t think of any more ways to become the “only one.” But if you can, I’d love to hear your ideas. You guys never fail to surprise and delight me.

P.S. – You might notice I’ve dropped the “open discussion” wording, which is how all Thursday posts used to be. Why? Because every post is a chance for discussion and I don’t want to just tack those two words on when not much else about the posts was different in any meaningful or practical way. Every day is open discussion day.

  • http://twitter.com/JennyBBones Jenny Bones

    Wow there's so much to chew on here! I think you broke it down very well with the three…and it is such a good number.

    I've worked with so many people in the past who request a sales page, ebook, etc. and they want it to be just like “so-and-so's” (whoever is doing well in their niche that day).

    People swear there is a plan for success, or a roadmap or a list of secrets. They waste a lot of time and money too, as a result of this belief.

    But the only way to really create something special is to figure out what's special to/about you. And these three clues are perfect for exploring what that is.

    PS: I love that you dropped the 'open discussions' and your reasoning behind it!

  • http://workathomerenegade.com/ Jon Clayton

    Excellent quote Michael. “What a long strange trip it's been.” — Jerry Garcia.

    • http://remarkablogger.com Michael Martine

      HA! That's a good one, too. :)

  • http://nathanhangen.com/blog Nathan Hangen

    Michael, I don't know what happened to you in your time away from blogging, but I really like what I'm sensing here. Keep on keeping it real.

    • http://remarkablogger.com Michael Martine

      Alien implant. All the cool kids are getting them.

      Seriously, thanks. :) More to come.

  • http://twitter.com/coblyn Christine Livingston

    I knew it was time not to continue with my most recent marketing coach when he told me “your problem, Christine, is that you need to decide whether you're a psychoanalyst, or consultant”. Mmmmmm… Wrong!

    As you well know I have struggled to articulate what I do. Am I a coach, psychotherapist (I'm NOT, actually, a psychoanalyst) or consultant – job titles and boxes that the world recognizes, with all with their expectations and baggage? Or am I a Christine – a powerful, modern, kick-ass synthesis of these three places, making a radical difference in people's lives; and how do I articulate and market that?

    Increasingly, I understand, it's something that I will discover as opposed to something that I will learn from anyone else. And, it's good to be around someone who actually understands the challenge enough to support it!

    • http://remarkablogger.com Michael Martine

      I well know the importance of not getting the “psychos” mixed up (who's got

      a fragile ego? and they're helping people?).

      Everything we've done or been goes into who we are now. People need labels

      but I say labels are only a “hook” or a starting point, because people are

      going to use them to find what they think they need. As you well know, what

      I do goes far beyond saying what social media plugin you should have on your

      blog.

      Keep doin' what you're doin': the continuous act of creating Christine.

  • Paul_Wolfe

    Hey Michael

    You're getting more prolific – I'm liking that!

    To answer your question: for me it's being a writer. It's something I always wanted to do as a kid – if memory serves, the spark was originally ignited reading a collection of Isaac Asimov science fiction short stories where he'd written an introduction to each story talking about how it was written, what he got paid, etc etc. it sounded so cool that I wanted to do it.

    And it doesn't matter whether it's fiction or non-fiction. The 90 minutes or so each day that I spend with headphones and writing away is time I'd fight to protect.

    paul

    • http://remarkablogger.com Michael Martine

      Yeah you know it's funny, I'm a writer, but I didn't become the writer I had

      originally envisioned.

  • http://www.tonyteegarden.com Tony Teegarden

    Man I'm simply digging this thought process. It all nails a few buttons I've been figuring out how to push of my own.

    Aside from the meat & potatoes thoughts, the post was nearly worth reading just for the new word I learned: retardulous lol

    Seriously though, I really resonate with what you've laid down there. I like the idea of having a framework around a concept or idea and allowing each individual to inject their personality, values & personal experiences into it.

    It's not so contrived but it is very personal and experiential personally speaking. It's something I'm working through myself. I still have no idea what the hell to call what I do. (maybe not good but I'm working through it)

    Like Nathan said, Not totally sure where you're going yet with this but I'm digging it and would like to experience & contribute to more of it.

    Thanks Michael.

    • http://remarkablogger.com Michael Martine

      Thanks, Tony. I love to make up words. So much more fun than using the

      normulous ones. :)

      I'm wary of formulas and wary of presenting formulas, because of all the

      “magic bullet” bullshit done in the name of online marketing (I mean,

      somebody recently was selling something called the Magic Bullet System…

      WTF… next they'll call it Snake Oil like it's a good thing).

      But the three elements above are criteria or goals we can all strive to

      meet. The more “pure” you can get with them, the more likely you'll have

      something unique and eliminate all notion of competition by creating your

      own class.

      If I can do that, then the truest thing in the world is for me to say that I

      don't know what it's going to be, because not knowing what to call it (at

      least at first) is the third criteria.

      • http://www.tonyteegarden.com Tony Teegarden

        I dig it Michael. On that note I'll quote Kid Rock:

        If it looks good you'll see it

        If it sounds good you'll hear it

        If it's marketed right you'll buy it

        but if it's real, you'll feel it

        -Kid Rock

        Rock on man.

  • Stallar

    I agree with the effortless part in doing something you enjoy. While my business is a lot of work I will gladly stay up late to get things done, I'll pour over deck designs for hours on the weekends and spend a lot of time tweaking my website. And I love every minute of it. Because it's for me I never look at it as a waste of time or daunting. Thanks for the well said article.

  • http://managingemployeeperformance.com Leon Noone

    G'Day Michael,

    Will I comment….? No. Maybe I will. But what I say will sound so smug. Will I? Wont I.? Oh bugger it, I will. So here goes…….

    What's important is not whether I have anything worthwhile to say. What's important is whether the people in my target market believe I have any thing worthwhile to say. To quote what two of our mutually admired gurus said in 1981, “Marketing occurs in the mind.”

    Sometimes I suspect that bloggers and internet marketers forget that this business of “being best” is first and foremost a marketing issue. Once you get your head around that,
    the first thing to do is to find out what marketing's really all about. Took me 13 years. Now it informs everything I do in my business.

    Years ago I was running a workshop at a training conference in New Zealand. A number of the people in the workshop were asking me how to build their credibility with their management.

    I suggested that firstly they should stop proselytising about themselves and training and secondly they should realize that their managers were their clients and treat them accordingly. And that was before I found out what marketing was all about.

    I drove a Volvo for years before my kids grew up. I never had any opportunity to discover for myself whether “Volvo means safety.” But I absolutely believed it. That's why I bought one in the first place. My family never suffered any injury in the Volvo. So I suppose it does mean safety.

    OK I'll return quietly to my cave now.

    Regards

    Leon

    Alright I'll be quiet now…….

    Regards

    Leon

  • http://www.lordoftheringstour.com Lord of the rings tour

    I would agree it is about the writer as they are the one to make any thing unique by putting in your passion, knowledge and making it easy to relate to.

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